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September

A Month of Reflection and Renewal

September arrives like a gentle whisper after the roar of summer—a pause between the sultry heat of July and the crisp embrace of fall. It’s a month that invites us to reflect on the days gone by and to dream about the future, offering a unique blend of nostalgia and anticipation.

As summer’s final act unfolds, we find ourselves savoring those last warm evenings in our favorite shorts and sun dresses. The sun may still blaze during the day, but the nights begin to cool, granting us the luxury of a more restful sleep without the hum of air conditioners. September, with its transition, brings a sense of gentle relief, marking a shift from the high-energy pulse of summer to a more contemplative rhythm.

For many, including myself, September carries personal significance as a month of celebration. As I approach my birthday (September 27th), I am prompted to look back on the year that has passed. It is a moment of introspection, where questions about the past year’s experiences and achievements come to the forefront. Did I seize every opportunity? Did I embrace life with the vigor and passion it deserves? With each passing year, these questions become more poignant, and the answers more telling.

The beauty of September lies in its duality. It is a bridge between the past and the future, a reminder of the summer’s joys and a herald of what lies ahead. Beyond September, the days will grow shorter, and the nights colder. We can anticipate the vibrant hues of autumn leaves, the smell of damp earth, and the comforting embrace of seasonal festivities. Fall’s arrival promises a slower pace and invites us to relish the changing landscape, from harvests to holiday preparations.

As we gaze forward, September gifts us with the assurance of beloved holidays—Halloween’s playful spookiness, Thanksgiving’s gratitude, and Christmas’s festive cheer. These celebrations, along with others unique to our individual backgrounds and traditions, weave a rich tapestry of experiences that help define our lives.

In essence, September is more than a mere month; it is a powerful symbol of transition. It stands as a poignant reminder of all that has been and a hopeful promise of all that is yet to come. It bridges the gap between the highs of summer and the anticipation of fall, between reflection and renewal. As we embrace this month, let us cherish the memories we’ve made, embrace the present with open hearts, and look forward with hopeful eyes to the endless possibilities that lie ahead.

Brian Carrillo 09/10/2024 – Somewhere in Santa Ynez Valley

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Fingerprints

In a sprawling, Southern California city that buzzed with life and movement, where glass towers scraped the sky and streets pulsed with the rhythm of millions, there was a girl named Elara. Like so many others, she moved through the city with a sense of urgency, surrounded by faces that blurred together, each person marching to the beat of unseen forces: deadlines, social expectations, and the pressure to blend in. The city seemed to demand conformity, like it was some great machine that required every cog to fit perfectly in place.

But Elara had always felt different.

She noticed things others didn’t. The way sunlight danced on the windows of tall buildings at certain times of day, creating fleeting rainbows in the concrete jungle. She saw the subtle cracks in the pavement where wildflowers dared to bloom, as if even the earth itself resisted being molded into something sterile and uniform. Yet, in a city that worshiped sameness, Elara often questioned her own worth. She wondered why, despite trying to fit in, she still felt so out of place.

 

As time passed, the weight of this doubt grew heavier. It wasn’t just the city’s noise—its relentless sirens, chatter, and clamor—that made it difficult to think; it was the constant hum of expectations. The social distortion, like a low-frequency buzz, seeped into every interaction, every glance from a stranger, every moment of silence. People wore their masks of perfection, presenting curated versions of themselves in a world where authenticity felt like rebellion.

Elara began to shrink into herself, folding her uniqueness away in an attempt to blend into the city’s fabric. But no matter how much she tried, something in her resisted. She didn’t understand why until one quiet evening.

It was a rare moment of peace, the city softened by twilight, and Elara found herself standing by the window of her tiny apartment, her fingers resting against the cool glass. Her thoughts wandered to the idea of fingerprints—how each person, no matter how much alike they seemed, carried a mark that was completely their own. It struck her how beautiful that was: no two fingerprints in the entire world were the same.

Elara stared at her hand pressed against the window, her fingerprint leaving the faintest impression on the glass. In that instant, she realized something profound. The beauty of being different was not in standing out for the sake of standing out, but in the quiet truth that every person carried their own story, their own imprint on the world, and those stories—those fingerprints—were irreplaceable. They were not meant to blend into one another, but to come together in a way that celebrated their differences, creating a richer, more textured world.

Her thoughts wandered further, reflecting on the people she passed by each day in the crowded streets. They, too, carried their own fingerprints. Each of them had a unique essence, a beauty shaped by their own experiences, struggles, and dreams. The city, for all its chaos, was not a monolith of sameness. It was made up of individuals, each contributing something entirely their own, whether they knew it or not.

In that moment, Elara understood that self-appreciation wasn’t about ego or narcissism. It was about embracing her own fingerprint—the unique pattern that made her who she was—without the need for validation or comparison. She didn’t need to be the same as those around her, and neither did they. True self-love, she realized, was the foundation for appreciating others. When we truly see and accept ourselves, we can begin to see and appreciate the beauty in others, even when their fingerprints are vastly different from our own.

This revelation sparked a quiet shift in Elara’s life. She began to walk through the city with a sense of curiosity rather than doubt. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by the noise and the crowds, she started to notice the small moments of individuality—an old man humming a tune as he waited for the bus, a young artist painting a mural on a forgotten wall, a child laughing as they splashed in a puddle. Each moment was a fingerprint, a reminder that, despite the city’s push for conformity, life always found a way to express its uniqueness.

And as Elara grew in her understanding of this, she found herself becoming more at peace with her place in the world. She no longer felt the need to diminish her own light to fit in, nor did she judge others for their differences. Instead, she saw the beauty in being part of something larger while still remaining uniquely herself.

She realized that the world didn’t need everyone to be the same—it needed each person to show up as they truly were, with all their quirks, passions, and imperfections. That was the only way we could truly contribute to a more balanced, special world. By embracing our own fingerprints, we allow others to embrace theirs, and together, we create a mosaic of diversity that is richer, deeper, and more meaningful than any one person could ever achieve alone.

In the end, it wasn’t the city that changed. It was Elara. And with her new perspective, she saw that even in the midst of all the noise, there was beauty in the differences. Every person was a fingerprint, leaving their mark on the world. And that, she thought, was something truly worth celebrating.

Brian Carrillo

I say push back on main stream media and celebrate what's most important to you. Don't let them drive your personal narrative.

Embracing Your Personal Narrative: A Path to Authenticity

Unfortunately, mainstream media often dictates the narrative, urging us to conform to predefined norms and ideals, it becomes crucial to reclaim our individual stories. Pushing back against these external pressures and celebrating what truly matters to us is not merely a rebellion but a profound assertion of our inner truths and values.

Each of us carries a unique tapestry of experiences, beliefs, and aspirations. These facets form the essence of our personal narrative — a narrative that should be driven by authenticity rather than external validation. When we allow mainstream media to dictate our narrative, we risk losing sight of our true selves. We may find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of comparison, self-doubt, and unnecessary competition.

However, by embracing what is most important to us — our passions, dreams, and principles — we reclaim our power. We tap into a wellspring of positive belief in ourselves, fostering resilience and self-confidence. This self-belief is not just about personal empowerment; it’s about nurturing a compassionate and inclusive society where each individual’s voice matters.

Media interests often thrive on sensationalism and conflict, perpetuating narratives that pit us against each other and even against ourselves. They can sow seeds of fear, division, and insecurity. Yet, when we choose to celebrate our uniqueness and pursue what resonates deeply within us, we generate a counter-current of positivity. We become beacons of authenticity, inspiring others to embrace their own paths and narratives.

It’s essential to recognize that pushing back does not mean isolation or disengagement from the world. Rather, it signifies a conscious decision to filter external influences, discerning what aligns with our values and what does not. This discernment empowers us to engage meaningfully with the world, contributing positively while staying true to ourselves.

The call to push back on mainstream media and embrace our personal narratives resonates deeply as a call to celebrate our individuality with courage and conviction. By focusing on what is most important to us, we cultivate a society where individuality thrives, mutual respect flourishes, and positive change becomes possible. Let us continue to uplift and inspire each other through the power of our authentic stories, steering our collective narrative towards a brighter, more inclusive future.

Brian Carrillo

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Make it a “Venti”

Twelve months ago, while standing in this very Starbucks in the picturesque town of Buellton, California, I received a call that would forever alter the trajectory of my life. I learned I had cancer. It’s the kind of news that shakes you to your core. Yet here I am, one year later, after enduring countless scans, shots, blood tests, pills, grueling chemo sessions, and thirty rounds of radiation. I lost my hair, my taste, seventy pounds of muscle, and my natural good looks. I couldn’t work for three solid months. But today, I sit here, healthier and more joyful than ever, savoring a cup of my favorite coffee and reflecting on the incredible positive changes in my life and the wonderful new people I’ve met.

Someone famously said, “Life is like a box of chocolates.” I couldn’t agree more. But let me add this: Life is like a big box of chocolates left in your car too long, melting into one giant, rich, tastier blob. It’s still chocolate, just transformed—different, but sweeter and more significant than it ever was.

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We don’t know what tomorrow or even today will bring, but if we embrace our future with the belief that it will be better, bigger, and brighter, regardless of the challenges we face, we might cherish and appreciate our lives even more. To those of you going through the toughest moments right now, I feel your pain and share your grief. I don’t know what the divine plan is or why we face such battles, like my own with cancer, but I hope you find comfort in knowing that all things do work together for a greater good.

I hope to report back in six months with the same positive test results I received last week. Until then, keep living, laughing, and believing. Life is indeed like a box of chocolates. Make it a Venti!

Brian Carrillo

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Coming Out About Coming Up

For nearly two decades, I’ve been at the forefront of the digital revolution, crafting and launching online platforms. In the early days of the internet, we were pioneers, brimming with anticipation, navigating unchartered waters without a compass. Few of us foresaw how deeply it would permeate every aspect of our existence.

The phrase “World Wide Web” still echoes from my memory. It came to life in the era of 286 computers, during the embryonic stage of web-browsers. This was akin to unveiling a “New World” to me, a term that later birthed my first website: New World Builders. This name was born from my conviction that we stood at the threshold of a virtually unknown world. The subtitle I used? The New World Wide Web.

So impassioned was I by the potential of the internet that I liquidated my assets, sometimes generously donating them, and plunged into the realm of creativity to chase my dream: creating a web platform that encourages users to transcend their horizons and explore this new world. My secondary platform, “Dreamland,” reflected my creative inclinations, housing an array of short stories, introspective prose, and romantic poetry, all reflecting my deepest musings.

Collectively, I’ve created a mosaic of websites and generated thousands of pages of content—original or repurposed—spanning topics from building materials and indoor air quality to literature, art, fashion, home products, dating, high-speed trains, and beyond.

If someone asked “Why?” I’d answer: because the internet has democratized self-expression, creation, discovery, and self-investment, allowing anyone to reach a global audience. Never before has it been so easy to share music, poetry, stories, or any form of art, evident in the millions of blogs and websites currently on the internet. Nowadays, anyone can author a book, compose a song, create a music video, and share it with the world, often for free.

Coming Up Magazine, another project of mine, is an evolution of my earlier works. The term “Coming Up” used to denote coming across a desired object, sometimes obtained by unsavory means. Today, “Coming Up” means “on the rise” or “up next.” It is frequently used in media to announce what’s forthcoming.

This music and entertainment-focused platform stemmed from a conversation with my son about essential life and business practices. I advised him to be more than a writer, photographer, or artist—to become a publisher. Why wait for someone else to promote your work when you can do it yourself?

Another motivation was to help my daughter promote her music as an independent singer and band member. Today, Coming Up Magazine showcases up-and-coming bands and musicians, people, places, and things on the brink of success. It’s also a continuation of my original writings, “Coming Up – A Street Wise Guide Through Life, Learning, and Love”.

For me, “Coming Up” symbolizes the necessary transformation we all must undergo to better ourselves and reach our potential, both individually and globally, for the survival of our species and our planet.

I embarked on this creative journey in my college days, typing away on an old Brother digital typewriter. The process keeps my mind sharp and creative while challenging my perspectives. Editing and publishing reviews and stories for Coming Up Magazine exposes me to music and art I wouldn’t usually encounter, keeping me receptive to younger generations.

I invite you to join me on this journey of growth and “Coming Up”.

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Contentment

Contentment – Love the One You’re With.

Although it’s rather late, I feel compelled to share some thoughts on a key aspect of personal growth — being present in the moment. Earlier today, a friend confessed to spending an evening with someone while their thoughts were preoccupied with another person. Their candidness struck me. While most of us might choose to deny or conceal such feelings, it’s a predicament we have all found ourselves in, more often than we might admit.

This person we can’t seem to forget could be an ex-partner, a friend, or even a spouse — anyone significant enough to capture our minds or hearts. We might momentarily entertain these thoughts before letting them pass, or they might become so overwhelming that we accidentally call the person we’re with by the other’s name. Quite an awkward situation, to say the least!

Truly living in the present moment is no easy task. We often daydream, fantasize, and yearn for what is out of our reach. However, such desires, when they grow too strong, can be perilous. It is much like an addict craving their drug of choice, going to any lengths to attain it, and later regretting their actions. Similarly, our longing for what is beyond our grasp can strain our relationships and risk what we already possess.

Almost everything is benign in moderation, including natural elements like water and fire, which are harmless in controlled amounts. But should the floodgates open or the flames intensify, their harmless nature transforms into a dangerous force.

Thoughts and reminiscences can be beautiful sources of inspiration and motivation. However, when they evolve into obsessions, they can become overpowering compulsions that distract us from the present, prompting us to trade what we already have for something we believe we need or desire.

Accepting the company of the person you’re with, be it a spouse, a family member, a friend, or a business partner, is a vital part of living in the moment. This sense of contentment and wholeness allows us to experience peace and happiness, which are essential aspects of personal growth.

So, while it’s important not to suppress thoughts about the future or let go of your dreams, it’s equally crucial to recognize that the most valuable thing we possess is the present moment — life and appreciation for those around us.

Here’s a thought to ponder: I will strive to be wholly present with the individuals I am with while exercising discernment in choosing the company I keep.

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THE ESSENTIAL KEY TO SUCCESS

The greatest lesson I’ve learned over the years is that the essential key to success is Keeping Your Word.

 THE ESSENTIAL KEY TO SUCCESS

The greatest lesson I’ve learned over the years is that the essential key to success is Keeping Your Word.

At the heart of successful entrepreneurship or artistic pursuit, three values reign supreme: Integrity, Trust, and Respect. How does one cultivate these pillars of success? It begins with honoring your word.

Indeed, it’s as straightforward as it sounds. Be consistent and dependable, even when the tasks seem trivial. They could hold immense importance to others and significantly influence your relationship or project’s trajectory. So, if you’ve promised to email or call someone ‘before Thursday,’ ensure it is done by then. This may sound stern, but maintaining reliability and punctuality forms the foundation of trust—your paramount focus.

So, what often disrupts our good intentions to keep our word? Overcommitment is a likely culprit. If, like me, you’re quick to jump on new ideas and projects, there may come a time when you realize you’ve overextended yourself. Suddenly, your commitment to a project is untenable due to time constraints and competing priorities. This predicament is common—trust me, I’ve been there. That’s why it’s wise to deliberate before agreeing, learn to prioritize, and choose what will serve you and your career best. It’s about respect—both for yourself and your collaborators.

Navigating the music industry, or any competitive field, is tough, but it’s crucial to remember that you can adhere to your ethical standards and still attain your objectives. Embrace the fact that integrity and honesty will always propel you further in life than shortcuts or deceit. This is the path to true and lasting success.

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Thank Heaven for San Pedro

I guess San Pedro translates as Saint Peter, which is were I am writing from. Were it not for Starbucks I would be sitting at the Yum Yum Donuts getting fat on buttermilk donuts and crappy coffee or at the 7-11 a few blocks down the street responding to emails from my car.

Have you ever wondered how your life would be different were it not for the Starbucks, Coffee beans, Targets, Walmarts and all the other corporate stores? I can tell you, personally I would be fatter and hard pressed to find a place to pee and connect with the internet while on the road. So far as much as we hate them, these Starbucks and McDonalds of the world, they sure do make our life a heck of lot eaiser, which is why I am in San Pedro to make life easier for a few tenants at an apartment complex who seem to have a difficult time when it rains because thier roof leaks.

 

San Pedro is also home to very cool ports of call and a huge freight terminal that has as many overhead cranes as a park has trees. I am sure the things most of purchase during the holidays come through these here ports!

Long live leaky roofs, ports of call and my favorite – Starbucks.

That’s a few random things I am thankful for this Thanksgiving week. What are you thankful for besides the normal things we all seem to remember?

Thought for the day: Be Thankful for even the things we bitch about.